My boyfriend and I broke up, should I delete him from my Instagram and other social media accounts?
Let’s go through some questions that will help you think through the pros and cons.
- Was your breakup mutual and relatively friendly? If so, you might want to keep the social media lines open, because to do otherwise might not seem too friendly.
- Did he break up with you? Are you hurt and mad? Is so, maybe deleting him from everything might feel good for a while, but you know it won’t really make your hurt feelings go away. (But you might just want privacy and that’s a good limit to set for yourself.)
- Did you break up with him? Is he making comments or posting things that seem designed to provoke or hurt you? If so, maybe you should delete him – it’s a relatively easy way to create a boundary between the two of you – if he isn’t connected to your accounts, it’s harder for him to get your attention in a negative way.
- One more question: how do you feel when you see his posts or comments or likes? You might want to delete him, or maybe just hide him for a while, if you feel sad or mad every time he shows up online. After all, part of breaking up is getting a little space from your ex – and that means in person and online.
Good luck! Congratulations on thinking so carefully about the boundaries and privacy you want to have going forward – that’s a mature and healthy step.